I don’t understand how a person/persons can say “I love you” but act like you’re non existent, for the most part. They show you no concern at all with no remorse when they hurt you, sometimes it feels like the hurt is purposely done. They refuse to even talk with you about things going on in their lives and they don’t even ask what’s going on in mine, like family and friends should do and want to share with one another, because “well we are none of your business.” This is not genuine love. And please do not say you “love me” out of obligation. I don’t need or want your pitiful feelings and fake love.
The Bible is very clear that we are to love one another as Jesus loves us. John 15:12: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” It is also clear about showing that love by action, not merely just speaking it. In 1 John 3:18, it says this: “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.”
Let me break that down a bit. The word love, as a noun, in the dictionary has a meaning put this way: A) an intense feeling of deep affection. B) a great interest and pleasure in something. Now, the word deed has a noun meaning of: an action that is performed intentionally or consciously. And finally, the word truth has a noun meaning of: the quality or state of being true.
I say all of that to say this. Actions speak louder than words and even in the Bible, that’s made clear. God never intended for us to love one another by mere spoken words but rather by showing that love to one another in action form, even from a distance.
If I say “I love you” but do not prove it to you by my actions, wouldn’t you question that love as being real and genuine or just mere words of comfort or obligation? The same is felt for me. If someone tells me that they love me, especially those that are closest to my heart, but their actions say other wise then I tend to wonder. Through their “actions” of love, or lack there of, I am learning that their true and honest love is debatable at this point in our relationship.
Life if very short so show the love you possess to those that you truly love beyond measure. Text and/or call them once in a while. Send a letter or a simple card to them by snail mail. Make an effort, some how some way, to show them that your love is real no matter how many miles are between you. Don’t say one thing but show something else by your actions. Don’t act one way when your with certain people but then act a whole other way when by yourself. Do not ever make anyone have to wonder if you truly love them.
Someone that loves you, even when you’re unlovable, will make time for you no matter what. They will come see you when possible. They will reach out to you, no matter whom they are with, to validate that love that they say they have for you. They would NEVER ignore you and make you feel as if they don’t care whether you live or die. Especially knowing how they make feel, whether intentional or not, because you’ve told them many times.
We all are simply living this life to die one day. I pray that it’s never to late for anyone to make a wrong a right with someone that they have hurt so deeply, especially their own blood family, by their actions as they continue to show you that you truly mean nothing to them.
Show those you say you love that have that true, genuine love for them! Because life is just to dang short not to.